Recently, when I was at my home in the Philippines, I awoke one morning to find one of the dogs sleeping on the sofa. All curled up, nice and comfy having nice doggy dreams. (She’s the one on the left in the photo of Motivation Doc jogging club.)
So whispered in her ear – ‘Please wake up and get off the sofa CAS.’
And if you believe that, you’re as daft as me!
However, when placed in a situation of annoyance, shall we say; do you:
- Think or do you react?
- Allow other people (or dogs) to decide your behavior?
You probably answered ‘Think’ and ‘No’ to these questions, but do you ever catch yourself saying:
‘She makes me really mad!’
‘His behavior really annoys me!’
‘How dare she speak to me like that!’
‘If he thinks I’m just going to do what he wants!’
Is it possible, that in making any of these statements, that:
1, you’re reacting and 2, allowing other people to decide your behavior?
Does the other person make you mad, or do you decide to get mad?
Do you react to what a customer, or a colleague or your boss, does or says to you, or do you think before you take action?
You’re the boss
Before you achieve anything in your life, you need to take charge of your thinking. When you take charge of your thinking, you take charge of your life.
Thinking is all about communicating with yourself; it’s all the little things you say to yourself while you’re awake.
(Just don’t say them out loud or the men with the white coats will take you away!)
That’s a lot of thinking
I read somewhere that the average human has 12,367 thoughts every day. Now, don’t ask me how they worked that one out, but let’s just accept that we do a lot of thinking and communicating with ourselves. The thing is that, 70 percent of these thoughts or internal communications are negative and encourage negative behaviour.
How you think, your relationship with yourself is what decides how well you communicate with your customers, your colleagues, your team members, your boss, and the dog.
The most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself, so you’ve got to get that right.
Henry Ford said, (he was the guy who started all the traffic chaos) – ‘Thinking is the hardest work there is, that’s why so few people do it.’
Always on time
I’ve always had a thing about good timekeeping; it’s something that’s been programmed into my brain. If you agree to meet me at 8.30 in the morning, I‘ll be there at 8.20; I will always do my utmost be on time.
So I used to get annoyed when a member of my team would show up late for a meeting or an appointment with me.
When I got annoyed I’d get stressed, I would react, and end up saying something that I regretted later. So I learned to start thinking about the situation and try to see it from their point of view. I decided not to react or let my programming run my brain.
That doesn’t mean to say I ignored the lateness or did nothing about it; I thought very carefully about what I wanted to say, and spoke to the team member about how we would resolve this situation.
Don’t get stressed
The point is this – I’m not prepared to allow that team member’s behavior to run my mind.
Getting annoyed and stressed is not good for your health and it isn’t a productive way to motivate your staff, deal with your customers or handle your mother-in-law.
You have to decide who runs your mind; is it you or is it someone else?
So – think about that!